INCREASING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
August 1st, 2007
Once you have learned to “be you”, there are endless ways you can, and should, nourish your own character. By doing this, you will increase your self-confidence! You may experience set-backs but these too will teach you about yourself.
The Following Tips Will Help Build Your Confidence:
1. Always have a thorough awareness of and an understanding of both your strengths and weaknesses before you set any goals.
2. Do not limit yourself by remembering negative incidents that happened in your past. Forget the Bad and remember the Good!
3. Never allow yourself to feel guilt or shame over your actions, even though most of us do this to ourselves. Guilt will slow you down and waste precious energy.
4. Be tolerant of others. People make mistakes. You yourself have obviously made mistakes, therefore, be patient.
5. When a setback occurs that tends to undermine your confidence, stay strong and look the other way. Do not buy into any negativity!
6. Do not ever put yourself down! It is an easy thing to do and it is very harmful. This behavior allows you to engage in self-pity. You may even get pity from others. You don’t want it! A self pitying person is someone that will never reach their goals because they can no longer see them through their self-pity.
7. Be sure to let others in your life know what you need from them. In return, tell them what you can do for them!
8. Examine carefully each failure and disappointment that you experience along your way. These may be clues in both your personal and professional life.
9. You must always be in charge of the direction you want your life to go!
When you develop confidence, you will forget all about the “self” in “self-confidence” and become absorbed in living your own life! Then you will be the unique individual who will make the right things happen for you!
Nancy J. Phillips, CPC